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    I had a dream yesterday about starting a business. In my dream, there was a young woman, who I've never seen in real life, whose hobby of creating a beautiful, unique artwork got my attention. I told her that I would make an investment on her work and put up a gallery displaying her artwork. She got excited, but since she was still young, she was not taking seriously what I was offering for her future. Her mind was all over the place and she was more interested in enjoying her young life and being carefree. Each time I would remind her of an opportunity to make her future bright, she would go right back and got serious with creating more artwork that we could sell. While I was trying to convince her, I was also started thinking of other ways to invest in a business. When I woke up, I started thinking that opening our own business is not such a bad idea. Would we be able to be successful in it? My hubby and I always have that idea in mind, but we are also playing cautious because we know that it would take up a lot of our time and energy. There are many things we have to consider. It's still in the back burner of our minds though.

  • Two dreams yesterday morning...

    The first dream was about my purse. It was not a very vivid dream and the only thing I could remember was that I panicked when I realized that I lost my purse. I was so devastated in my dream because I was not paying attention and careless; and I was blaming myself for my carelessness. I was asking everyone of my friends if they saw my purse. When I finally did find it, it was empty. I just cried and started thinking of the things I had in the purse, and just thinking about starting over and calling DMV, credit card company and so forth and so on, my head was spinning.

    I always have this type of dreams. This is one of my fears. Identity theft, fraud-- these evil people who would do anything to steal from you. Instead of having decent jobs, their wicked desire is to take someone else's properties for instant gain. These are greedy people...covetous people who are jealous and do not care if they inflict pain on someone else. But I always believe that the consequences of their evil actions will eventually catch up with them. That's what I like to see in my dreams, someone who got caught and do restitution to society, and humble himself/herself and change for the better.

    The second dream I had was about a visit to my former job with my grandson in tow. We were on our way out after visiting some people when I bumped into an old friend and officemate. She wanted to talk to me because we haven't seen each other for so long. She was on her way to the ladies room, so we followed her. On our way to the restroom, the escalators in the building were not working. Being with my three year old grandson, it became a challenge for me to lead him to the stairs that seemed like endless and bumpy. By the time we got to one of the ladies room, we lost my friend. Sensing that my grandson had an immediate need for the toilet, I led him to a commode, but the toilet seat was full of wet new clothes and so were the rest of the commodes. We rushed to the other bathrooms in the building but they were all being used. The end of my dream.

    My grandson has been on potty training so this explains why I had this dream. neutralcolorsinbedroom This bedroom is so inviting and peaceful looking.

  • Yesterday morning when I accompanied my grandson to bed for additional snooze, I also dozed off to lalaland and had another dream. In my dream, my two older sisters and I were in a SUV ready to do some shopping at the mall. But I suddenly realized that I did not have my handbag with me. I told them that I will get back inside the house, (it was the old house that my deceased mom and stepdad's used to own), to get my handbag. The vehicle was running so I rushed inside the house. When I grabbed my purse, I saw that there were all kinds of shredded important papers inside so I decided to keep the crumbled papers in a shoe box to check later. I kept the box under the dining table knowing that my mom would not see the shoe box as I made sure to hide them. I guessed it was taking me longer to get my purse organized while making sure I have my red wallet inside. My sisters got tired waiting for me and got inside the house and both yelled at me: "What's taking you so long?! The end of the dream.

    I knew why I had that dream because I started reading my old diary that I used to journal my life with when I was young. There were a lot of events that I've forgotten and reading my notations there sounded very amusing and childish. I had so much drama that reading my accounts of the past made me laugh at myself. Of course at a young age, I didn't know much about life. I lived and learned as I went with my daily existence. It's just so funny reading my adventures and ideas that I thought was matured enough for my age then.

    I'm thinking of making a write up about my old journal, but I'll keep them private just for my eyes only. Then I can toss it afterwards. Reading back about some of the things that happened during those times has given me perspective in connection to what I've become.

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  • I probably will have dreams about my mother in law for a few more times until I'd come to terms with the unpleasant situations at her house last month; then I will be done and over with the whole thing.  Seriously, I don't really want to dwell on it. God is asking me to forgive her the way He forgives my own trespasses. I hope that this is my last dream about her and this would settle it in my heart.

    In my dream last night, my hubby and I were in a bedroom, seems like it was a bedroom because it had a bed. But the room had no walls. Suddenly, my mother in law approached us; and both my hubby and I knew that she was in the room, but we were not looking at her when she was talking to us. When I finally did look at her, she did not look the same. She lost a lot of weight and had done something to her face, that's totally not her. I told her in amazement that she looked younger. She told me that she needed a change and she was glad the change gave her a different outlook in life. His son was talking to his mom but was not looking at her. I told him to look at his mom, and when he did, he, too, was surprised. It seemed like we were not talking to the same person.

    I think this dream is telling me that because of her sad experiences in life, my mother in law has totally lost her confidence and self esteem. She lost hope which is really true in her life and she is always negative and very bitter in life. Her depiction of life and people are not in the right place. She has a tunnel vision and lacking wisdom. I think that all the bad things in her life has accumulated within her that her heart is hardened.

    I tried to reach out to her, but she loves to wallow on her sad experiences in life. She is very vocal in how she feels and she could also drag anyone down to being bitter about life. I've tried to really understand her even though my hubby has warned me that his mom is always on a warpath. His parents were always at each other's throat that cause the collapse of their marriage. She was always blaming his dad when they were together and always complained about life. And she still does. I tried for her to see the positive things in life, but she tends to go back to the negative aspect of life itself.

    As she grows a lot older, she's set in her ways and she makes sure to let us know that she will not attempt to change. She always locks horns with her sons who just stay away from her to avoid any conflict with her. She's always difficult and problematic that I can see why her children would not like to be around her. But she's the only one that can really help herself out of being miserable in life. There's a saying that goes like this: You can't teach an old dog new tricks.

    The only thing I can do is just pray for her. For her to know that God can heal her and give her perfect peace, if she could just fix her thoughts on Him rather than having a pity party all the time.

    Isaiah 26:3 (New Living Translation)

    3 You will keep in perfect peace
          all who trust in you,
          all whose thoughts are fixed on you!

  • I had a funny dream last night. In my dream, we were about to move to a house. But we suddenly had a change of heart because we realized that the house was in between a busy street and the noise from outside was annoying. So, with all of the stuff that we already had packed, we found an empty apartment to stay in for awhile. It was a good size apartment and a nice one. We hauled all our stuff in the apartment located upstairs, while the tenants below looked confuse. They kept on asking if we were the new tenants, but we were ignoring them. The apartment has a wide entrance patio and seemed like everyone from the second floor gather around it which is just next to our apartment unit. We seemed jolly about the whole thing because we were constantly smiling and laughing in my dream. When I met up with one woman tenant who looked like Japanese, she engaged me with a pleasant conversation. She managed to get me to talk about our experience with the house that we were supposed to move into. I was telling her of the address of the house, but realized I already have forgotten it. I had to show her some paper work with the address on it. She happily believed my story. The next scenery in my dream was when the landlord came to our unit. Nonchalantly, he got inside with a lease agreement. He did not question us on how and why we just moved into the unit. He seemed agreeable and civil about the whole thing, while all our apartment neighbors were all wondering. We told our Japanese neighbor that we are staying there temporarily until we find a house that is best suited for our needs. That eased the minds of the other neighbors and they went their merry way after hearing that.

    When I woke up from the dream, I opened my eyes to make sure that I am in our house and not anywhere else.


     

    For the most part, dreams contrast and correlate the activities that are going on in our lives. They often provide the dreamer with other ways of looking at activities, relationships, and concerns that have been on his or her mind. Working with a dream simply suggests that we get a sense of whether or not the dream is positive, negative, uplifting, a warning - whatever it may be. After we have a sense of the theme or the feeling of the dream, the next step is to attempt to discover what area of our life appears most connected to that dream. In other words, even if we don't understand every symbol, can we get an idea of what the dream may be suggesting about our life?

    Some scientific studies have suggested that the conscious mind filters out more than 95% of the stimulus coming to it. Although this may sound high, we are generally not aware of such things as the feeling of the clothing on our body, the sensation of the glasses on our nose, the sounds of the heating and air conditioning system, the intensity of the light in a room, the noise being made by a co-worker sitting near us - most things around us - unless we draw our attention to them. The same is true about our subtle interactions with others, our intuitive insights that lay just beneath conscious awareness, and our spiritual prompting that originates from the level of the soul. Yet, all of these things reside within the realm of the subconscious mind and can be brought to the surface. In fact, that is why individuals can often remember more that went on at a crime season under hypnosis than they remember consciously. It is the subconscious mind that awakens while we sleep, providing dreamers with insights and guidance about their bodies, their minds, and their souls.

    Having worked with dreams for more than twenty-five years, I am convinced that even a novice to the world of dreams and dream interpretation receives valid and helpful guidance anytime that she or he is asleep. All we really need to do is to attempt to begin remembering our dreams. Perhaps putting a notepad next to the night stand will jog our memories in the morning, or maybe we're one of those individuals who makes several trips to the bathroom during the night - keep some paper near the sink and simply jot down a few notes before falling back to sleep. The best thing to do is simply to begin writing something down every morning, even if it's only "I feel tired." The more we let our subconscious mind know that we are open to the inner world of dreams, the more we avail ourselves of a wealth of knowledge and insight we always had available but just never knew where to look for it.

    an excerpt from: Dreams as Guidance to Life's Questions
    by Kevin Todeschi

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    I had another dream. My dream was about my son and his first girlfriend. We were at her house with her relatives. They were very nice to us. In my dream, my son and his ex were trying to reconcile. But she was somehow hesitant. She wanted to reconcile, but because of the hurt feelings my son had caused her, it was difficult for her to make the decision whether to take him back or not. In my dream, I was hoping that they would. While waiting for her decision, I was reminded of having an appointment with the bank to close our escrow on a house that we were buying. The house was not very far from where my son's ex was living. When I went to the bank, they wanted a cashier check from me instead of a personal check. I pointed out that they accepted before a personal check from my husband when we started the escrow  transaction. The bank said, this time they need a cashier check. I told her I have to go to my bank to obtain a cashier check and would mean a delay in closing. I wanted so much to move in to the new house already, thinking that it would expedite my son's ex to make a decision in the matter concerning my son. The bank and I were back and forth about the means of obtaining funds from us. Finally, I agreed to get the cashier check. They gave me an amount they need-- $30,000.00.

    On the way to the bank, I started thinking that if my son goes back with his ex, I would not get to know  the grandson I have now. In my dream, I realized as I was driving to my bank, that my son is married and there's no way that his ex and him will get back together.

    That was a weird dream. I was not even thinking of my son's ex for a long time now. In my dream, she looked exactly the same from the last time I saw her. My son was a lot younger, too.

    Why should you bother remembering your dreams?

    1. Your dreaming mind has access to information that is not readily available to you when you are awake. Your dreams may reveal your secret desires and subconscious feelings.

    2. In remembering your dreams, you will have an increased knowledge about yourself, bring about self-awareness and self-healing.  Dreams are an 

    extension  of how you perceive yourself. They can be a source of inspiration, wisdom, and joy.

    3. Learning to recall your dreams may help you become a more assertive person.  In remembering your dreams, you are expressing and confronting your feelings.   

    4. Remembering your dreams can help you come to terms with stressful aspects of your lives.  from: dream moods

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  • I have so many dreams, but I have not gotten a chance to record them here lately...

    A dream I had two days ago and that I still can remember found me in a place of a party. I was invited to a children's party. There were a lot of people, and mostly very warm people. I noticed that there was a popular movie star comfortably sitting on a couch smiling as she chatted with the party hostess. She looked plain without makeup, but she did not look different and was recognizable. I had a chance to chat with her; and asked her if I can have a photo souvenir with her and she were kind to oblige. She was ready to pose, but then I noticed that she looked a lot older than when she was sitting on the couch by herself. Anyway, I was looking for my cellphone camera, but I realized I did not have it with me. So I asked my brother who, in my dream, had the same cellphone as mine. He started looking for his cellphone but he could not find his either. Here was this female celebrity willing to pose with me and extremely patient waiting and I did not have a camera. I told her I would go home to get my cellphone and I will be right back. On my way back to the party, I was reminded that I left something at home that the party hostess told me to make for her birthday celebrant kid. I was so upset that I forgot to bring it with me because it was like a mobile toy for a baby all decorated with ice cream cake. I knew that it was just melting at the house and the ice cream cake would already be melting. The end of my dream.

    Yesterday morning, I had another dream. It was not a pleasant one. It was something about my past that keeps on coming back as a dream many times. Just different settings. I seldom think about this past, but for some reasons, this person in my past keeps on coming back in my dreams. I was trying to be civil to this person, but I was not really very happy of the arrangement in my dream. I kept on telling myself why I allowed myself to be in that situation again, but I could not seem to tell this person how I felt inside. I kept on trying to remember where I am now in my life, but I seemed to not remember. But at the end of the dream, I started to remember who I am now and told this person that I cannot be around this person anymore. I have a new, happy and joyful life now that this person cannot be part of.

    Top 10 Amazing Facts About Dreams

    10. Blind People Dream

    9. You Forget 90% of your Dreams

    8. Everybody Dreams

    7. Dreams Prevent Psychosis

    6. We Only Dream of What We Know

    Our dreams are frequently full of strangers who play out certain parts - did you know that your mind is not inventing those faces - they are real faces of real people that you have seen during your life but may not know or remember? The evil killer in your latest dream may be the guy who pumped petrol in to your Dad’s car when you were just a little kid. We have all seen hundreds of thousands of faces through our lives, so we have an endless supply of characters for our brain to utilize during our dreams.

    5. Not Everyone Dreams in Color

    4. Dreams are not about what they are about

    If you dream about some particular subject it is not often that the dream is about that. Dreams speak in a deeply symbolic language. The unconscious mind tries to compare your dream to something else, which is similar. Its like writing a poem and saying that a group of ants were like machines that never stop. But you would never compare something to itself, for example: “That beautiful sunset was like a beautiful sunset”. So whatever symbol your dream picks on it is most unlikely to be a symbol for itself.

    3. Quitters have more vivid dreams

    2. External Stimuli Invade our Dreams

    This is called Dream Incorporation and it is the experience that most of us have had where a sound from reality is heard in our dream and incorporated in some way. A similar (though less external) example would be when you are physically thirsty and your mind incorporates that feeling in to your dream. My own experience of this includes repeatedly drinking a large glass of water in the dream which satisfies me, only to find the thirst returning shortly after - this thirst… drink… thirst… loop often recurs until I wake up and have a real drink. The famous painting above (Dream Caused by the Flight of a Bee around a Pomegranate a Second Before Awakening) by Salvador Dali, depicts this concept.

    1. You are paralyzed while you sleep

    Believe it or not, your body is virtually paralyzed during your sleep - most likely to prevent your body from acting out aspects of your dreams. According to the Wikipedia article on dreaming, “Glands begin to secrete a hormone that helps induce sleep and neurons send signals to the spinal cord which cause the body to relax and later become essentially paralyzed.”

    Bonus: Extra Facts

    1. When you are snoring, you are not dreaming.
    2. Toddlers do not dream about themselves until around the age of 3. From the same age, children typically have many more nightmares than adults do until age 7 or 8.
    3. If you are awakened out of REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, you are more likely to remember your dream in a more vivid way than you would if you woke from a full night sleep.

    from the List Universe....

    I just listed the explanations that I am interested in. Now I know why my husband cannot remember his dream. He snores!  I do remember my dreams when I wake up in the morning and, then go back to sleep. And I would have another dream. I also remember my dream when I am sleeping on my left side.

  • I have a pet peeve about how the articles A and An are being used incorrectly; and from news reporters on top of that. I'm not saying I am perfect with the use of the English language, but the wrong use of these simple articles instills extreme frustration in me when I see them used erroneously.

    When to use "a" and when to use "an"
    Use "a" before nouns and adjectives starting with consonants (examples: a car; a large order). Also use "a" before nouns and adjectives starting with a "u" or an "eu" when the word begins with a consonant 'y' sound (examples: a uniform, a European country)

    Use "an" before nouns and adjectives starting with a vowel (examples: an adorable dog, an unusual request). Note the exception above with "u" and "eu."

    "A" Versus "An"
    This last topic is undoubtedly the easiest, because most non-native speakers already know about the difference between a and an. They are simply two variations of the indefinite article. A is used before words that begin with consonant sounds (a rock, a large park) and an is used before vowel sounds (an interesting subject, an apple).

    However, note that the choice of a or an depends on pronunciation, not spelling. Many words that begin with the vowel -u- are preceded by a instead of an because the -u- spelling is often pronounce -yu-, as in useful ("a useful idea"), and uranium ("a uranium isotope"). In addition, in a few words borrowed from French, the initial consonant -h- is not pronounced: an heir to the throne, an hour-long lecture, an honorable agreement, etc.

    All the letters in the alphabet are either consonants or vowels.

    • All these letters are consonants:
    B, C, D, F, G, H, J, K, L, M, N, P, Q, R, S, T, V, W, X, and Z. Y is sometimes a consonant and sometimes a vowel.

    In the word yellow, y is a consonant. In the word happy, y is a vowel.

    • The rest of the letters of the alphabet are called vowels:
    A, E, I, O, U, and Y (sometimes)

     

    A Strategy for Success
    Keep in mind that native speakers of English seldom use articles incorrectly; therefore, any errors that you make are very noticeable and distracting to them. That is why you should make an effort to use articles correctly.

    http://www.rpi.edu/web/writingcenter/esl.html

    WRONG:

    A/AN

    If the word following begins with a vowel sound, the word you want is “an”: “Have an apple, Adam.” If the word following begins with a consonant, but begins with a vowel sound, you still need “an”: “An X-ray will show whether there's a worm in it.” It is nonstandard and often considered sloppy speech to utter an “uh” sound in such cases.

    When the following word definitely begins with a consonant sound, you need “a”: “A snake told me apples enhance mental abilities.”

    WRONG:

    AN HISTORIC

    RIGHT:

    A HISTORIC

    You should use “an” before a word beginning with an “H” only if the “H” is not pronounced: “an honest effort”; it’s properly “a historic event” though many sophisticated speakers somehow prefer the sound of “an historic,” so that version is not likely to get you into any real trouble.

    here's another word that come to mind:

    WRONG:

    ANYWAYS

    RIGHT:

    ANYWAY

    “Anyways” at the beginning of a sentence usually indicates that the speaker has resumed a narrative thread: “Anyways, I told Matilda that guy was a lazy bum before she ever married him.” It also occurs at the end of phrases and sentences, meaning “in any case“: “He wasn’t all that good-looking anyways.” A slightly less rustic quality can be imparted to these sentences by substituting the more formal anyway. Neither expression is a good idea in formal written English. The two-word phrase “any way” has many legitimate uses, however: “Is there any way to prevent the impending disaster?” 

    http://wsu.edu/~brians/errors/anyways.html

    In any case, I just want to air these frustrations of mine...

    Silence
    There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside you.
    Zora Neale Hurston  (1891 - 1960)

  • Last night, I had another dream. In the dream, I am shopping for new clothes. I am checking out mini-skirts and tops that are decent for work. They also have matching vests and I am so delighted in the different color selection. I am contemplating on buying the clothes, but decided to eat first, as I've noticed that the clothing store has their own cafeteria. I had some bites to eat when the next thing I noticed, my son was there at the table. He told me that him and his wife have separated. They had a big fight. My son was telling me that he wanted to go back to California and he wants us to go back with him. I told him that we could not just  do that. We have finally settled in where we are and could not just pack our bags and move to where he decided to go. That was the end of the conversation. I went back to get the clothes I've chosen at the clothing store. I am trying to get a saleslady, that looked familiar to me, to assist me with the clothes, but she is not very helpful and seems to not care. She is just standing next to the clothing rack and seems oblivious to what's happening around her.

    I recently found something I never heard before. Lucid dreaming. Most of my dreams were very vivid and clear; and most of them I can recall the moment I wake up. I guess I would have to start writing them in the present tense according to this article I've read on Wikipedia. I think I will read more about this lucid dreaming to get more in tune with it and may help me in remembering all of my future dreams.

    Dream recall

    Dream recall is simply the ability to remember dreams. Good dream recall is often described as the first step towards lucid dreaming. Better recall increases awareness of dreams in general; with limited dream recall any lucid dreams one has can be forgotten entirely.

    The main technique used to improve dream recall is to keep a dream journal, writing down any dreams remembered the moment one awakes. It is important to record the dreams as quickly as possible as there is a strong tendency to forget what one has dreamt.[19] It is suggested that one's dream journal be recorded in the present tense. Describing an experience as if presently in it can help the writer to recall more accurately the events of their dream. [citation needed]

    Dream recall can also be improved by staying still after waking up.[19] This may be something to do with REM atonia (the condition of REM sleep in which the motor neurons are not stimulated and thus the body's muscles do not move). If one purposely prevents motor neurons from firing immediately after waking from a dream, recalling said dream becomes easier. Similarly, if the dreamer changes positions in the night they may be able to recall certain events of their dream by testing different sleeping positions. [citation needed]

    from: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dreaming