July 5, 2007


  • My grandson has such beautiful, big eyes that his pappy and me couldn't take our eyes on those beautiful light brown eyes. He loves it when we pay attention to him, he feels so loved. His eyes twinkle when we give his eyes special attention.


    I put him on schedule ever since we became his caregivers. He knew that in the morning when mommy drops him off, he goes to the guestroom, remove his sandals and climb on the bed and lay down. Many days he would sleep well.


    Like this morning, he was gone to lala land the moment he hit the pillow. His mommy said that he was tired from the July 4th party bash--he played hard but enjoyed himself. So he was ready for good extra sleep.


    Which made me remember my dream-- again, it was when I was young. Because in my dream, my son was about 9 or 10 at the time. I was shuttling him around. There was a scene in my dream that I was inside another bank (I used to work for a bank). In my dream, I had told my boss that I am quitting to live out of state. But here I was applying for another bank just across from where I was working. The next scene in my dream was the many times I've spent with my son when he was little. I even remember his voice as a child in my dream. There were more to the dream, but I could not seem to remember, but it was mostly about my son when he was a little boy.


    My grandson has similar character like his dad when he was at the same age. He is loving like my grandson. My grandson has the same mischievous grin when he gets playful. My grandson used to play hard where he could hurt me or his pappy. We trained him out of it and talked to him a lot about pain when he hits. I don't remember my son being rough when he was in a playful mood. From the start, I trained him to behave wherever we were and whatever we do. I rarely spanked my son because from the start, I instilled in him to be mindful of others; and that I am mommy and he is the child. He never had a temper tantrum, not in the house, especially not in public places. My son was so well behaved.


    When I got acquianted with the Bible, I read the part that said: spare the rod and spoil the child. I did mostly spare the rod, I don't believe so much in spanking, but I believe that we can train up a child. The Bible also said:


    To Train Up A Child


    "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6


     


    What I had done was trained my son how to behave and to have good manners when he was a child. I did not even realized it until I read this verse. I was not strict with him, but I was firm and I did not give in to his whims. But I gave him a lot of hugs and kisses and I made him feel that I love him very much. I did not realize I was doing the right thing, until I read these two verses in the Holy Bible.


     


    When my grandson is in our care, he knows his schedule for the day. He knows not to put toys on the couch but to designated area where his toys are. He knows to put away his toys when he is done playing with them. When he eats, he knows to go to his little table. When it's time for his nap, he would go to our guestroom, climb the bed, he would signal for me to turn on the aquarium lamp and turn on the CD player to play his lullaby songs. He signals to pull the blanket over him and he is ready for bed. I'd tell him that I would leave the room so he can have a quiet nap.


     


    My two year old grandson also knows where to lay down when he needs changing his diapers or his training pants. He can also sit at the table with us and eat without messing up with his food. I trained him how to use his little spoon and he is really getting pretty good with it.


     


    The only conflict I have with my husband is the DVDs for our grandchild to watch. I like my grandson to watch educational DVDs, but his pappy would have him watch cartoons that are so popular nowadays. I don't mind as long as he doesn't watch them all the time. We have separate drawers of children's movies that my grandson could watch. I both monitor my grandson and his pappy on their mutual love for some movies they enjoy watching over and over again!